Couples therapy
A steady, non-judgemental space to understand each other more deeply and strengthen your connection
Couples therapy
Most couples don’t come to therapy because they don’t love each other — they come because things feel hard, tense, or stuck, and they don’t know how to shift it anymore.
You might feel like you’re having the same argument over and over, walking on eggshells, or slowly drifting apart. Maybe trust has been shaken, there’s resentment that won’t budge, or one of you shuts down while the other pushes harder to be heard.
In our work together, we slow things down and make sense of what’s happening between you. I help you both feel heard, understand each other more clearly, and find safer ways to talk about the things that really matter — without it turning into another fight or withdrawal.
Couples come to see me when they’re dealing with:
Constant conflict or miscommunication
Emotional distance or feeling more like housemates
Broken trust, including infidelity
Feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or shut down in the relationship
Stress or life changes that have put pressure on the partnership
Becoming or preparing to become parents and the shifts and challenges that brings to the relationship
This work isn’t about blame or quick fixes. It’s about understanding each other better, rebuilding safety, and finding a way forward that feels more connected, respectful, and steady — for both of you.
How we work together
I don't come into the room with an agenda or a predetermined plan. I sit with you both, observe, and try to deeply understand what's happening, not just the details of what's gone wrong, but the layers underneath. From there I share what I'm seeing, in the hope that you begin to see each other a little more clearly too. The kind of clarity that can get buried over years of hurt, busyness, and just living alongside one another.
My work is informed by Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Internal Family Systems, frameworks that help me make sense of what I'm witnessing in the room, and guide us toward something that actually holds.
Rather than getting caught in the details of what happened and who said what, we strip everything back to what's really driving it, and that's where lasting change comes from.
Our first session runs for 80 minutes. That extra time matters, it gives us room to really understand what's brought you here, what you're hoping for, and how your relationship has evolved over time. I'll get a feel for how you relate to one another, and you'll get a feel for how I work.
From there, sessions run for 50 minutes and are shaped entirely by what's coming up for you at the time. There's no fixed agenda, we follow what the relationship needs.
My role isn't to take sides or tell you what to do. It's to help you both see what's sitting underneath the conflict, the patterns, the unmet needs, the moments where you're trying but missing each other. That might look like slowing things down, reflecting back what I'm hearing, or helping you find new ways to say what you actually mean.
Fortnightly sessions tend to work best. Enough time between sessions to let things settle and shift, without losing momentum.
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